Brachot 43 – Do not embarras another in public!

A short halachah from today’s daf and one that we should consider carefully over the coming weeks:

נוח לו לאדם שיפיל עצמו לתוך כבשן האש ואל ילבין פני חברו ברבים

It is preferable, from an ethical perspective, for one to throw himself into a fiery furnace rather than humiliate another in public

Koren note:

It is forbidden to publicly embarrass another. One must make every effort to avoid doing so, as one who commits that transgression has no share in the World-to-Come (Rambam, Sefer Hamadah, Hilchot De’ot 6:8).

But just how far does this go? The following is one of the more powerful statements made in the Talmud about shaming another person (Babylonian Talmud, Bava Metzia 58b-59a).  “It is better for a person to have sexual relations with a doubtful married woman rather than shaming his fellow human in public.”

It is all too easy for us to make throw away jokes at the expense of others. However we must show true empathy every time we interact with others – how do they feel? If in doubt – be quiet!

Following on from yesterday here is another article from Rabbi Chaim Jachter’s website. The article deals with “Emotional Homicide”. The article is written by Rabbi Daniel Z Feldman.


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I am an Osteopath and University Lecturer who is trying to keep up with the 7 year daf yomi cycle. I thought I would try and share a few small thought on the daf each week.
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